Rusty Loop- The Entangled Mind

Ok! So here is a situation.

I am into a relationship with this guy, it has been now almost 5 years but inside my head, I can feel that things are not the same as they use to be.

We are smiling, we give hugs, we share things but still inside my heart I know, I am not feeling the same and later I realized he is also on the same page with me.

But 

Still, we continue to pretend and act like the perfect couple, he is moving to another city, I see him online in Whatsapp for 1 hour, 2 hours, 3 hours but I don't get a single message now from him but yes I do get an immediate good night once I ask "hey! You had dinner?"

"Yes! I hope You had too, I am too tired, I think I 'll sleep now".

"Oh! ok, Good night take care" with a smile in the end

And, let me tell you the same implies on me, its not just him.

Every night now before sleeping I decide, tomorrow morning I will tell him that things are not working out between us and we should move on now in good terms, but let me tell you one interesting thing we both are loyal to each other, we are not seeing any other guy/girl so ideally, it's not a relationship betrayal because of the third person. (just in case one of the major reasons for most  of the breakups out there)

But still, we are fooling each other which is equal to betrayal because we are hiding the very root of relationship and questing the trust factor.

We can sense the storm or maybe not, we can sense the tension of not getting separated but hiding the very thought of separation.

At this time I m not tensed because I ll lose him, I am more tensed because we will drag this and we will be Entangled In Our Minds now and every time, every day and every moment.

One fine day we decided to speak our hearts out and suddenly our minds are free.

We can feel that adrenal rush not because of this breakup but because we gathered the courage to face the reality, we are not shedding a tear maybe because we felt it but we were not able to say it , which in itself is the wrong deed in our relationship, hiding the true feeling.

"Duty was never a relationship"- Rads

A Similar Situation

We often find ourselves clout in a situation which can neither be understood or can be made understand either to oneself or to others.

Such feelings are rare to get but eventually after lot of calculations and callous experiences make us realize the importance of not only person but make us understand and value the moments spent with them , help us to know the value of a relation.

We whimper when they are gone , when we sit and remember each and every moment spent with them , each and every  times we fought , laughed , cried and all the emotions we shared together.

At last what is left just the memories but they also fade away with time if we choose to. 

We have one life but we keep of wasting time and unable to live our life wisely maybe coz of the fact we waste lot of time thinking or fearing something which don't even exist or which has very transient impact in our life .

It totally depends upon us how e take the life and how we live our life , when we say life the thing strike in our head is just our lifestyle or what are we doing with our life I terms of career or the partner.

We should not forget there is a time for each and every thing in life but we should not even forget that when the things are done out of the time then for sure it leaves a deep impact in form of scar which will not just go out of our life no matter what we do, no matter where we go, no matter whom we meet, no matter how calm and composed we are , no matter how much we think and no matter how much  we do but we will always find our self inside the loop where we cant go out.

We are so much absorbed in our own world that we fail to notice , what is happening around us or who is there next to us.



Emotions

I cried and cried 

Finally, my tears are dry

No one saw my tears, no one saw my face, no one saw my heart

I kept on crying for him

He never looked at me, 

He proved me right for one thing, 

My doubt was right in the beginning

Don't listen to your heart 

It will leave you broken and tear apart again and again

Emotions fade away with time

He left without saying a word

I kept on wondering what went wrong

One day I realized nothing was wrong 

I just made a wrong choice

I wasted my time and tears for a person who never deserved

Now I learned not to be vulnerable 

Never drop your walls, you are responsible for yourself

Don't keep the heart open, it is not for granted

You are digging a grave for yourself

Later don't blame anyone for breaking your heart 

As you have given this right to someone

Don't let emotions control you

You are meant to control your emotions.

I cried and cried 

Finally, my tears are dry

Steer feelings

" You can feel many things but can represent only a few" - Rads


Feelings are the most devastated or maybe the strongest features we human's posses.

With every passing age, we have the phenomena of chemical imbalance which each and every individual goes through and there is a conflict between mind and heart

Mind says " Calculate and then take a decision"
Heart says" No I can't Aj kuch tufaani krte hai " 

This dilemma may or may not make you fall in a compunction situation which will again let you waste your time in sorting out the situation.

I have a fight with my friend over a mere reason, a reason which may not even exist but in the process I or he/she overreacted and our next 24 hours are consumed with clouded thoughts without realizing our 24 hours are gone in a baseless thing 
but 
If it would be the other way round If I would have had understood and we had enough compatibility the things could be sorted out at that very moment and we could have had spent some time together and created a memory instead of deciding not to see each other's face.

Controlling the feelings is the most most important thing to be attained with age, we don't realize but even a negligible decision might impact our lives in a certain way. 

We have a limited time of 24 hours, either to create a beautiful moment live the life and time for yourself, friends, family and all the people around you or engage yourself in random situations which don't even require your attention and might end up in wasting an hour of your life.

It is difficult to control each and every feeling but sometimes it's ok to go with the flow.

The only fact of the matter is to have a balanced mindset and let feelings not control you. :) 

Try it is not so difficult either :) 

Sugar Truth- Loop Of Relationship

"Until you cope up with past, your life and relationships will continue to be the same; it’s just the faces that change.”

First of all: All my dear friends, you are not broken. We are all works in process. There is nothing wrong with you are perfectly normal and fine. We all end up in a loop at times. Sometimes it’s because we haven’t healed pain from the past. And sometimes it’s because we’ve healed our pain but still hold on to past habits. When we do this, past habits will promote the replaying of past events and, therefore, the pain will return.

This happens at a psychological and practical level. The type of beliefs we have about reality will shape the way we perceive it, react to it, and interpret it

How to make Way Out of the Loop

These are some of the things that helped to heal and rewire the brain

1.Thoughts

Observe the thoughts you are getting and filter which thoughts no longer serve you or are waste for you.

2. Let go the useless memory

Your baggage of memory is full and its time to use shift+delete option. Don't be the garbage of memories. The memories should be cleaned from time to time to make space for new beautiful memories

3.New skills

Learning is a never-ending process. When you decide to learn new skills you decide to come out of the cocoon and you decide to leave the past behind.

So all the broken, sad hearts struggling to step out of a shattered relationship or devastating life. BE POSITIVE and come out of the loop.

All the best !!!😊

Marriage (Women)-Myth/Fact

MYTH: As a girl turns 20 parents, relatives, neighbors, aunties, uncles in short every single individual in this world suddenly making realize her parents that she is an adult now and ready for marriage as she will grow old her charm, demands, beauty, mind will start going out of control by getting influence of the changing society


I am turning 22, going to complete my studies in 2 months but wait I am not only completing my studies but a huge bullet shot is coming for me.
Yes! you heard me right I am the target
I am the latest target of this audience who needs to be entertained irrespective of the fact What I want or What are my plans or what are my dreams but no a big no because they want a big fat wedding a topic to discuss with mom ,brother, sister, uncle, cousin, in-laws ,grandparents , neighbours , colleagues and every single person in this world they know.

And what is the reason??
"SHOW OFF"
"GOSSIP"
"IMPROVE RELATIONS"
"EGO"
. . . . . . . and the list is long.

"So I met a boy today. He is an engineer working at Pune earning a package of 18 lakh.
The family is also not that advanced but they are simple and don't use much mind"

"I think you should talk to the boy once, can't miss such chances very rare people can get such boy.
He is smart, intelligent, practical as per my analysis"

In anger "but dad I am just 22. Do you know what are you talking about I AM JUST 22."

( a long pause)... " Hmmmmm"
"Your mom was 18 and I was 22 but see how the situations are so perfect we will be free from all liabilities at the age of 50
we are free now"

My inner volcano is ready to erupt but I cant as he will be hurt "hmm ok "



REALITY: I am about to complete my degree and further I want to purchase each and everything with my own money.
I am not against you people papa Mumma but I just want little time so that I can do as my wish.
I am very well aware that with my habits 28-30 is the perfect time for pregnancy.
25 is the perfect age to get married with all sexual drives, knowing people, handling families, handling husband, knowing the world.

But right now I don't even know, the boy proposing just want to use my body or genuinely so-called love me.
If I pick a fight I can't control my words which will impact the family
I don't have to prove you, neighbors, aunties, uncles or anyone
I just want to do a job, travel, paint, sing, dance, shop for my satisfaction. I want to purchase a fossil watch, not for showoff but for a self-satisfaction of becoming an independent woman
I do not know how to adjust but with my determination of doing something in life, I just need your support in terms of giving me time

                                                                     The world is coming like a wave
                                                            every wave in my ears are tearing me apart
                                                            but still, I have a boat and know how to sail
                                                                             I can fly without fear
                                                        but that emotional trauma on them I can't bear
                                                                I am not ready to give up my vagina
                                                               and I will first achieve what I deserve
                                                     Irrespective of all drama but without insulting you 
                                                                                    because
                                                                                  I LOVE YOU

Disclaimer:  The above views do not or shall not contain a professional view but a common view which is different for everyone. This view is not responsible for any rebel or dangal in any home at any point of time.

How to keep a healthy relationship?

Love , Sex & Relationship, these three words bring a roller coaster ride even in the life of the most patient, successful and rational man/woman. After taking the views of nearly 280 people ( Married & bachelor)

It can be said that most people believe that understanding & communication is one of the major ingredient for a successful relationship! But what if even after flexible communication and understanding there is a scope of getting attracted to someone or even after the complete life there is a possibility of love.???


There is a microbic line between love and intimacy, being logical is one of the most important factors for any relation to be on track. But again it depends on person to person!!

Let's Start the recipe of a healthy relationship!!

1. SPACE ,   we are usually lost in this scenario with trillions of questions,
What if he/she change? What if he/she betrays me? etc etc etc ,
but when a person enters in our life, we should never forget he/she is having own personal life as well. It is a bitter fact , but our partner's life does not revolve around us 24x7.

2. Fights & Arguments,   It might sound a bit unearthly but in most of the case's arguments tend to improve the understanding and enhances maturity level.
So Happy Fighting!!

3.Thinking,   Please nobody is taken for granted, and nobody is dumb to betray you for any reason. We should always keep our mind clear when it comes to our partners. Overthinking and Underthinking they both can slit your neck any time. They are always supposed to be balanced.

4.Physical Affection,    When it comes to getting physical, again it depends on individual thinking but being physical is a way to show how valuable the person is, it can be even a way to show emotions but at the same time it can be just about getting physical.

5.Respect,  Last but not least, It is very important to respect all the differences between partners and make them feel that you value them and respect the way they are.



P.S Just common opinions picked up from sites and surveys

Singapore Diaries

Well! let's talk about the things to do in the top 3rd richest country in the world (2108) i.e Singapore. This paramount country in itself is an amazing certitude within the dimensions of 721.5 km. Here is the list of top things to do in Singapore. Lets start!!

1.Universal studio
This place is a fantasy world divided into different small cities like Sci-fi city, Hollywood, Madagascar, Jurrasic world, Ancient Egypt etc. consisting of different 4D & 3D rides ( NOTE: TRANSFORMER & EGYPT ride is a major attraction and must do ride)  Inside Revenge of the Mummy ride

Revenge Of The Mummy Ride

Transformers The Ride


2. S.E.A Aquarium
If you want a free meditation and calm your mind, body, and soul, then this is must go place the open ocean areas will not only create the proximity with sea and its beautiful creatures but certainly, it will relax you in such a way that you will forget all your worries, pain for a while.    

Biggest Fish Tank

3.Sentosa Island
This crazy world is more about fun, games, rides include (Madame Tussauds, WINGS OF TIME ( Major attraction of the island must go show NOTE: TRY TO GET MIDDLE SEAT for a better experience)  
Transport: Cable Car, Metro, and Via Road
Sentosa Island

Wings OF Time( Laser Show) 

4.Singapore Flyer( Observation Wheel)
Did you ever felt how it will feel like to be inside a capsule? This is the answer, Once upon a time this was the tallest wheel in the world but recently overtook by US by 3 m. This is the only place where you can see entire Singapore inside one capsule. Singapore Flyer( Observation Wheel)

Capsule

5. ZOO & Night Safari
This is the world's first nocturnal zoo.  Must go with the tram or walk trails.Tram Trail

 


6.City Tour
This is one amazing country with a lot of interesting and mindblowing facts and place. The city tour will not only help to explore the entire country in 2 hrs but take you to the journey of formation.

Apart from these the other attraction points are

• Gardens By The Bay
• Bird Sanctuary
• Casino 
• Marina Bay
• Shopping ( Mustafa center  ( SImilar to Indian Mkt) , Bugis , Tangs Plaza, Vivocity, Suntec City ) these are one of the major shipping areas.
• Clarke Quay
• Chinatown
• Orchard Road

Space - Part2

I can hear my heart beat fast enough to challenge the fastest person,

I remember without any pointer I just ran out from the room

and occupied the corner most place of the area

A chill ran into my body 

leaving me shivering,

I can feel the sweat glands working faster than normal

I gulped and tried to hold my hand and stop shivering

I found myself standing in the darkest place

of this universe, Where it's just me and my loneliness

He tried to harm me twice and I am sure, again he will.

This thought is disturbing me 

and I am trying to figure out the way to win over him

whenever I gain strength to think about how to fight back

I end up with a question mark?

Space- Part 1

When I am alone I look at the sky

I try to figure out the beginning and ending point

But every time end up in a never-ending space

Space which is ready to be explored

Space where there is no explanation

A place where I can be just me

I hold a brush in my hand

& think of the worst scenario 

After a few minutes, I realized 

I am already in my worst scenario

Suddenly a wave of fear ran in my body

The brush slipped off my hand

and I left the space . . . . .

Expectations

It is a barbarian with a black mask
It will come with the hide tide
And snuff out each and everything,
On its way just like a shrimp piece of paper

It not only snides you
but every individual associated with you
It will never give warning before thumping the door
It will chip in silently just like a thief

The scars will not be visible
But they will be permanent
The sunk scars are within you
Which will never retrieve in life

    

Yes We Can Understand

"Yes we Can Understand"

This is the most deadly and powerful context in each and every individual's life in this universe. "Yes I can understand " " Yes I understood" " Yes I will do " " I hope you are understanding"

No matter what, but we are expected to keep our mind broad, when I say broad and open-minded it has only one strong meaning ignore & please try to understand.

We are expected to be mature, when I say mature it has one strong meaning ignore & please try to understand.

We are expected to be perfect, when I say perfect it has one strong meaning ignore & please try to understand.

We are expected to have patience at an extreme level but when we ask " what is the level of patience"
we get just one answer " Please try to understand"

We are expected to be the perfect material as son, daughter, son in law, daughter in law, wife, husband, and the list is long, when I say perfect material it has one strong meaning ignore & please try to understand.

We are expected to be the only intelligent person when it comes to facing people, to understand people, to handle situations, to answer back, to get the ability of decision making but , this expectation has just one strong meaning ignore & please try to understand.

We are expected to be an all-rounder in terms of handling relationships , when I say handling relationships it has one strong meaning ignore & please try to understand.

It's ok we assure we can understand. 

One Day At Local Bus

Its 7:00 A.M

I opened my eye,as my eye went on the clock “Shit!! Its 7:00” my entire sleep ran away at the same speed as a robber runs after stealing an ornament.

I rushed and get ready just like a superman oops! I mean superwoman and reached bus stop.I want to have a new local travelling experience ,which compelled me to take a local morning bus at this jam packed city. 

Within fraction of seconds I am inside this box with wheels with limited seats ,extra people are standing with eagle eye ready to snatch an empty seat without letting the prey go offsite.

I stood for almost 10 minutes seeing people uploading and downloading but there is this man in khakhi colour outfit no matter in which space of this box he is standing, he will immediately observe this process ,make his way out of the crowd with not even an inch to move and ask for ticket. Seriously this requires concentration with senses working every minute to check footfall in the bus if missed money will be gone.

There are two sections inside bus woman and Men and khahki gentleman stands in between like a wall to make sure that men are not entering the women zone.Finally after standing for almost 10 minutes I have my reward in front of me my seat but to reach there I have to be a warrior who has to pass all the hurdles on way (Indeed way is just 4 steps away) bags, people, no space, shouting

So finally after saying sorry every second and pushing people aside I reached .15 women are standing in front of me (space is only for maybe 10 people )holding pipes to avoid falling but still on every break every single person in this bus fall on each other inspite of no space.Some people are hanging on doors , while some are sandwich and others who are sitting are takings bags or butts of standing people on their face with a hope that fellow should not fart at the moment.

School children , workers , old age , young people, ladies with lot of bags, husband shielding wife and baby from crowd , men bashing on each other, people hanging like clothes on doors , sometimes even feet are not touching ground just hanging on air, inside smell , outside smell , somebody talking on phone loud enough to advertise his conversation, struggling to make way out of bus, people are sitting and standing with headsets murmuring songs , some sleepy heads , some extreme active mode.. but …..

Everyone is rushing to reach their destinations despite upset mind, fresh mind,sad face, happy face, tensed face, angry face but they are running 

keeping all emotions and problems aside….