Sugar Truth- Loop Of Relationship

"Until you cope up with past, your life and relationships will continue to be the same; it’s just the faces that change.”

First of all: All my dear friends, you are not broken. We are all works in process. There is nothing wrong with you are perfectly normal and fine. We all end up in a loop at times. Sometimes it’s because we haven’t healed pain from the past. And sometimes it’s because we’ve healed our pain but still hold on to past habits. When we do this, past habits will promote the replaying of past events and, therefore, the pain will return.

This happens at a psychological and practical level. The type of beliefs we have about reality will shape the way we perceive it, react to it, and interpret it

How to make Way Out of the Loop

These are some of the things that helped to heal and rewire the brain

1.Thoughts

Observe the thoughts you are getting and filter which thoughts no longer serve you or are waste for you.

2. Let go the useless memory

Your baggage of memory is full and its time to use shift+delete option. Don't be the garbage of memories. The memories should be cleaned from time to time to make space for new beautiful memories

3.New skills

Learning is a never-ending process. When you decide to learn new skills you decide to come out of the cocoon and you decide to leave the past behind.

So all the broken, sad hearts struggling to step out of a shattered relationship or devastating life. BE POSITIVE and come out of the loop.

All the best !!!😊

Marriage (Women)-Myth/Fact

MYTH: As a girl turns 20 parents, relatives, neighbors, aunties, uncles in short every single individual in this world suddenly making realize her parents that she is an adult now and ready for marriage as she will grow old her charm, demands, beauty, mind will start going out of control by getting influence of the changing society


I am turning 22, going to complete my studies in 2 months but wait I am not only completing my studies but a huge bullet shot is coming for me.
Yes! you heard me right I am the target
I am the latest target of this audience who needs to be entertained irrespective of the fact What I want or What are my plans or what are my dreams but no a big no because they want a big fat wedding a topic to discuss with mom ,brother, sister, uncle, cousin, in-laws ,grandparents , neighbours , colleagues and every single person in this world they know.

And what is the reason??
"SHOW OFF"
"GOSSIP"
"IMPROVE RELATIONS"
"EGO"
. . . . . . . and the list is long.

"So I met a boy today. He is an engineer working at Pune earning a package of 18 lakh.
The family is also not that advanced but they are simple and don't use much mind"

"I think you should talk to the boy once, can't miss such chances very rare people can get such boy.
He is smart, intelligent, practical as per my analysis"

In anger "but dad I am just 22. Do you know what are you talking about I AM JUST 22."

( a long pause)... " Hmmmmm"
"Your mom was 18 and I was 22 but see how the situations are so perfect we will be free from all liabilities at the age of 50
we are free now"

My inner volcano is ready to erupt but I cant as he will be hurt "hmm ok "



REALITY: I am about to complete my degree and further I want to purchase each and everything with my own money.
I am not against you people papa Mumma but I just want little time so that I can do as my wish.
I am very well aware that with my habits 28-30 is the perfect time for pregnancy.
25 is the perfect age to get married with all sexual drives, knowing people, handling families, handling husband, knowing the world.

But right now I don't even know, the boy proposing just want to use my body or genuinely so-called love me.
If I pick a fight I can't control my words which will impact the family
I don't have to prove you, neighbors, aunties, uncles or anyone
I just want to do a job, travel, paint, sing, dance, shop for my satisfaction. I want to purchase a fossil watch, not for showoff but for a self-satisfaction of becoming an independent woman
I do not know how to adjust but with my determination of doing something in life, I just need your support in terms of giving me time

                                                                     The world is coming like a wave
                                                            every wave in my ears are tearing me apart
                                                            but still, I have a boat and know how to sail
                                                                             I can fly without fear
                                                        but that emotional trauma on them I can't bear
                                                                I am not ready to give up my vagina
                                                               and I will first achieve what I deserve
                                                     Irrespective of all drama but without insulting you 
                                                                                    because
                                                                                  I LOVE YOU

Disclaimer:  The above views do not or shall not contain a professional view but a common view which is different for everyone. This view is not responsible for any rebel or dangal in any home at any point of time.

How to keep a healthy relationship?

Love , Sex & Relationship, these three words bring a roller coaster ride even in the life of the most patient, successful and rational man/woman. After taking the views of nearly 280 people ( Married & bachelor)

It can be said that most people believe that understanding & communication is one of the major ingredient for a successful relationship! But what if even after flexible communication and understanding there is a scope of getting attracted to someone or even after the complete life there is a possibility of love.???


There is a microbic line between love and intimacy, being logical is one of the most important factors for any relation to be on track. But again it depends on person to person!!

Let's Start the recipe of a healthy relationship!!

1. SPACE ,   we are usually lost in this scenario with trillions of questions,
What if he/she change? What if he/she betrays me? etc etc etc ,
but when a person enters in our life, we should never forget he/she is having own personal life as well. It is a bitter fact , but our partner's life does not revolve around us 24x7.

2. Fights & Arguments,   It might sound a bit unearthly but in most of the case's arguments tend to improve the understanding and enhances maturity level.
So Happy Fighting!!

3.Thinking,   Please nobody is taken for granted, and nobody is dumb to betray you for any reason. We should always keep our mind clear when it comes to our partners. Overthinking and Underthinking they both can slit your neck any time. They are always supposed to be balanced.

4.Physical Affection,    When it comes to getting physical, again it depends on individual thinking but being physical is a way to show how valuable the person is, it can be even a way to show emotions but at the same time it can be just about getting physical.

5.Respect,  Last but not least, It is very important to respect all the differences between partners and make them feel that you value them and respect the way they are.



P.S Just common opinions picked up from sites and surveys

Singapore Diaries

Well! let's talk about the things to do in the top 3rd richest country in the world (2108) i.e Singapore. This paramount country in itself is an amazing certitude within the dimensions of 721.5 km. Here is the list of top things to do in Singapore. Lets start!!

1.Universal studio
This place is a fantasy world divided into different small cities like Sci-fi city, Hollywood, Madagascar, Jurrasic world, Ancient Egypt etc. consisting of different 4D & 3D rides ( NOTE: TRANSFORMER & EGYPT ride is a major attraction and must do ride)  Inside Revenge of the Mummy ride

Revenge Of The Mummy Ride

Transformers The Ride


2. S.E.A Aquarium
If you want a free meditation and calm your mind, body, and soul, then this is must go place the open ocean areas will not only create the proximity with sea and its beautiful creatures but certainly, it will relax you in such a way that you will forget all your worries, pain for a while.    

Biggest Fish Tank

3.Sentosa Island
This crazy world is more about fun, games, rides include (Madame Tussauds, WINGS OF TIME ( Major attraction of the island must go show NOTE: TRY TO GET MIDDLE SEAT for a better experience)  
Transport: Cable Car, Metro, and Via Road
Sentosa Island

Wings OF Time( Laser Show) 

4.Singapore Flyer( Observation Wheel)
Did you ever felt how it will feel like to be inside a capsule? This is the answer, Once upon a time this was the tallest wheel in the world but recently overtook by US by 3 m. This is the only place where you can see entire Singapore inside one capsule. Singapore Flyer( Observation Wheel)

Capsule

5. ZOO & Night Safari
This is the world's first nocturnal zoo.  Must go with the tram or walk trails.Tram Trail

 


6.City Tour
This is one amazing country with a lot of interesting and mindblowing facts and place. The city tour will not only help to explore the entire country in 2 hrs but take you to the journey of formation.

Apart from these the other attraction points are

• Gardens By The Bay
• Bird Sanctuary
• Casino 
• Marina Bay
• Shopping ( Mustafa center  ( SImilar to Indian Mkt) , Bugis , Tangs Plaza, Vivocity, Suntec City ) these are one of the major shipping areas.
• Clarke Quay
• Chinatown
• Orchard Road

Space - Part2

I can hear my heart beat fast enough to challenge the fastest person,

I remember without any pointer I just ran out from the room

and occupied the corner most place of the area

A chill ran into my body 

leaving me shivering,

I can feel the sweat glands working faster than normal

I gulped and tried to hold my hand and stop shivering

I found myself standing in the darkest place

of this universe, Where it's just me and my loneliness

He tried to harm me twice and I am sure, again he will.

This thought is disturbing me 

and I am trying to figure out the way to win over him

whenever I gain strength to think about how to fight back

I end up with a question mark?

Space- Part 1

When I am alone I look at the sky

I try to figure out the beginning and ending point

But every time end up in a never-ending space

Space which is ready to be explored

Space where there is no explanation

A place where I can be just me

I hold a brush in my hand

& think of the worst scenario 

After a few minutes, I realized 

I am already in my worst scenario

Suddenly a wave of fear ran in my body

The brush slipped off my hand

and I left the space . . . . .

Expectations

It is a barbarian with a black mask
It will come with the hide tide
And snuff out each and everything,
On its way just like a shrimp piece of paper

It not only snides you
but every individual associated with you
It will never give warning before thumping the door
It will chip in silently just like a thief

The scars will not be visible
But they will be permanent
The sunk scars are within you
Which will never retrieve in life

    

Yes We Can Understand

"Yes we Can Understand"

This is the most deadly and powerful context in each and every individual's life in this universe. "Yes I can understand " " Yes I understood" " Yes I will do " " I hope you are understanding"

No matter what, but we are expected to keep our mind broad, when I say broad and open-minded it has only one strong meaning ignore & please try to understand.

We are expected to be mature, when I say mature it has one strong meaning ignore & please try to understand.

We are expected to be perfect, when I say perfect it has one strong meaning ignore & please try to understand.

We are expected to have patience at an extreme level but when we ask " what is the level of patience"
we get just one answer " Please try to understand"

We are expected to be the perfect material as son, daughter, son in law, daughter in law, wife, husband, and the list is long, when I say perfect material it has one strong meaning ignore & please try to understand.

We are expected to be the only intelligent person when it comes to facing people, to understand people, to handle situations, to answer back, to get the ability of decision making but , this expectation has just one strong meaning ignore & please try to understand.

We are expected to be an all-rounder in terms of handling relationships , when I say handling relationships it has one strong meaning ignore & please try to understand.

It's ok we assure we can understand. 

One Day At Local Bus

Its 7:00 A.M

I opened my eye,as my eye went on the clock “Shit!! Its 7:00” my entire sleep ran away at the same speed as a robber runs after stealing an ornament.

I rushed and get ready just like a superman oops! I mean superwoman and reached bus stop.I want to have a new local travelling experience ,which compelled me to take a local morning bus at this jam packed city. 

Within fraction of seconds I am inside this box with wheels with limited seats ,extra people are standing with eagle eye ready to snatch an empty seat without letting the prey go offsite.

I stood for almost 10 minutes seeing people uploading and downloading but there is this man in khakhi colour outfit no matter in which space of this box he is standing, he will immediately observe this process ,make his way out of the crowd with not even an inch to move and ask for ticket. Seriously this requires concentration with senses working every minute to check footfall in the bus if missed money will be gone.

There are two sections inside bus woman and Men and khahki gentleman stands in between like a wall to make sure that men are not entering the women zone.Finally after standing for almost 10 minutes I have my reward in front of me my seat but to reach there I have to be a warrior who has to pass all the hurdles on way (Indeed way is just 4 steps away) bags, people, no space, shouting

So finally after saying sorry every second and pushing people aside I reached .15 women are standing in front of me (space is only for maybe 10 people )holding pipes to avoid falling but still on every break every single person in this bus fall on each other inspite of no space.Some people are hanging on doors , while some are sandwich and others who are sitting are takings bags or butts of standing people on their face with a hope that fellow should not fart at the moment.

School children , workers , old age , young people, ladies with lot of bags, husband shielding wife and baby from crowd , men bashing on each other, people hanging like clothes on doors , sometimes even feet are not touching ground just hanging on air, inside smell , outside smell , somebody talking on phone loud enough to advertise his conversation, struggling to make way out of bus, people are sitting and standing with headsets murmuring songs , some sleepy heads , some extreme active mode.. but …..

Everyone is rushing to reach their destinations despite upset mind, fresh mind,sad face, happy face, tensed face, angry face but they are running 

keeping all emotions and problems aside….

Mistakes- A Part of Life

Life is box filled with stories

We all write our own story

But realise very late what is right and wrong

After doing an act we calculate and land to a answer but its late to enter that ans as time is already up

Some mistakes can be covered

Some can be adjusted

Some can be reiterated

Some can be improvised

While some can be forgotten

But at the end its a mistake

The mistakes done unintentionally wearing a blindfold in the name of some random fantasy world are the most painful yet most practical to drop down one layer of protected shield, as its just the introduction of the brutal world.

A world where survival is all that matters .No matter how but the only thing that everyone is running after is 'Survival'

With age we can rectify our mistakes or try to rectify .Some fades away with time ,while some still carve inside asking the question Why? How? But standing at this stage we don't have answer for any question because we also know that whatever is happening at present has the source from the past which we created

So sitting in one room , we will try to figure out and ask oneself ' So I can't carry this my whole life! So what is the solution?'

'What next?'

While busy selecting a solution and entangled in our thoughts we will not realise that how far we have come from that mistake probably a distance where it's existence is negligible.........

Phase II. Post marriage

So this is October

I guess 7 months are over now.. And I believe this is the correct time to define Phase II or Post marraige scenario.

I remember the next day at my new home . New people New home Alienated daughter (for now ), thank god not sister (Eventually) but a well embraced wife , daughter in law, sister in law and last but not the least aunt as well.

In one day so many additional relationships in my dictionary even though I am scared but at the same time I am anxious.

Now rituals are started Seriously I have no idea what that uncle half nude (pandit ji) is blabbering I am trying to catch his lips to know what he is saying Is it sanskrit or Hindi? or French , German  but then I realised this language is special ,exclusively made by pandit ji's.

Anyways I am hungry dude ...

Finally after that puja which is basically a story , I can have food ...
I am waiting for food I heard some doorsteps Oh! finally my food is here but wait, my all dreams are shattered (for now). It is some aunty who has come suddenly embraced me for few minutes I was not able to realise what is going on??
OH!! she has come to see new bride and giving bribe ( gift)

It is dark now but still the showcase of bride is not yet over but inside I am enjoying this maybe because nevertheless after sometime I will become old  .....

Eventually a new bride has to experience not in just terms of new relations but with rituals , understanding people, improvising habits, commencing own decisions

Maybe the best part of the day , while having dinner all the family members are waiting for me why??so that we all together can start dinner (Indeed a small thing to imagine but leaves a huge impact behind) or a long term investment I can say....



                                             A new bride is not just a bride
                                     she is an anchor between two families
           A new bride is not just for showcase she enters the house with responsibilities
                                            to make home a better place
                             She enters the door with new dreams , decisions,
                     leaving behind one life and reborn again to start a new life

                                                           

Phase1 A bride's Heart- For Parents

One day , one evening , one moment , one second which will make you feel you don't belong here, you don't belong to them , they 'were' not 'are' the most crucial part of your life. I can feel scrabble in my voice

"om mangalam bhagvan.................." I can hear these enchanting continuously while other people around me are busy in chatting and some of them are looking at me and murmuring I wonder what they talking about me or "us" or my family or my makeup or my dress bla bla bla...

Suddenly my eyes stopped at one point where my parents are sitting and watching me with a smile but I can see their eyes are filled with tears ready to flow anytime , I can feel the tide of immense sadness which they are hiding with that 0.5 mm smile...

I am helpless sitting in that position I cant even smile because I know that will not change anything.

While watching the hawan kundh I can feel that fire within me of all the mistakes, I hurt them , I teased , I shared with them but I know this will never going to happen again .

Yes! something will change from inside which is unsaid but we all three know it..

Hundreds of people thousand of eyes but there is someone who is happy but breaking from inside. .While standing like a statue in that stage wearing an expensive dress with all makeup on and most important for every hour keeping a smile on face but still fighting every tear from inside I don't think so anyone in the crowd will notice this in my eyes.

Time is running very fast tick tock tick tock " oh its 3:00 A.M !!  " finally just 2 more hours to go when I will be called only DAUGHTER AND SISTER.. 

While standing near car i looked around everyone is crying she is red as tomato with swollen eyes but still tears in her eyes

I can feel now I will have to think twice before sharing anything with her indeed she is the one whose heartbeat is related with me...

I can feel now I will have to think twice before sharing anything with him indeed he stood like a wall in front of me

I can feel now I will not fight with him again the same way a day before.

Every time if i will take one step I will have to come 5 steps down put a smile and conflict with my mind "Plz they are the one "  
Mind- "but from now its only YOU"

That single thought.......

Finally the time has come when I will not go home again as their only daughter

Finally the time has come when there will be a transparent line between us

Finally we are standing on opposite sides......

A new life is waiting for me 

A new person has held my hand , my father gave my hand in his hand and said with tears " She is my doll" ........

                                                       with no choice

                                                           and then

                                                 I left everything behind 

Two ways

                                                               TWO WAYS


Sometimes in life we do the things that are just way to go. There are always two paths in front of you ,and the fact is you have to walk on both the paths some or the other day but at the right time. In case if you will enter the path before the time no dbout you will have to return back to the begning and start again all the things.

Even after chosing when you realize that actualy the decision was a hasty one there is noting left except for the fact oh freek! I wanted to be in that moment again and get the things done right but as it is said time and tide wait for none so do your, actions.

"Believe" is the most iportant ingredient for any action to take place and acquire the thing. Believe and fear cant go hand in hand for the fact where there is believe there is no place for fear . Once you wll start believing your fear will no more live with you. So before chosing any path just keep in mind that believe in yourself before stepping into any one of them and then forget about the end just believe in yourself and move forward most wore outcome can be and infact will be that you will have to start the things all over again as said above but as the more you will remain calm the more you will learn the things and implement it.

Every action teach you something or the other and if you have learnt the things previously you will not repeat the things again or even if you will repeat the damage will not be that high..
Whatever you will get on the way it is your decision what to keep and what to leave behind but once you get something never forget that this is one of the most prized possession of your life and you cant just le it go easily, at the end believe is something which will make you realize from time to time this is the thing I waited for............